Wednesday, January 19, 2005
updates...
mom talked to Darling Da, n the next thing i know, she asked me out on Sunday to get the much awaited ring.. :) she was trying to get me buy a gold one from Golden Chance in Geylang, but i managed to bring her to SK to get the ONE.. *wink* quite sad though that we missed out on the "while stocks last" offer, or we would've gotten a much higher carat, but i hope my Darling Da is not upset over it, kan Da cayang? ;)
i was awaken by mom's voice on monday morning, to ask if i would be free dat night, coz she wanted to come over Da's house for the thingy. i was too sleepy to think dat Da wouldnt be able to make it coz she'd be attending her night classes. I was having tuition anyway... mom was thinking if we could get over before Fri, we could invite their family for Raye gathering at my place *wink-wink*!
i persuaded mom to let Da come over on dat day, without her family tagging coz like my dad said, it wouldnt be a nice feeling for their family as we haven't got over there yet. means there is still no official link or connection between us yet. old ppl would understand more of dis situation.. i just couldnt understand why mom wasnt sensitive to such feelings...
i emphatise mom over dis. i could see she was at a lost as to what to react to the present situation. at one hand, she knows im old enuff to find a partner and start a family soon. at the same time she's very very concerned that im not financially ready to commit, although i've given her a rough idea of how much i'd be able to save for marriage. wat most ppl see is dat the underlying concern of hers is dat she's too afraid to let me go. she has lost a daughter. i guess she was sooo afraid dat i would be no longer for her n dad anymore once im married, n dat Da would stop me from taking care of my parents. i was even surprised dat when mom talked to Da dat night, she mentioned dat if mom n dad were to visit Wak Satinah at JB, she wanted Da to understand dat i have to be there to drive them, even after marriage. from one perspective, the request seemed very small n petty. but when u look at my mom's perspective, she's soooo afraid dat as a son, i wouldnt do even such a thing. but it is true, like mom said, there r wives who do dat to their husband's family. but like i told mom, just becoz it happens to other family doesnt mean it'll happen to me.
the phone conversation was overall, alhamdulillah. the pleasant surprise was dat although mom was against us dating out, she even gave a chance for us all to go out together by offering to pick da up from her house if mom were to invite da to follow us to jb :) or to wherever for dat matter. hmm, mebe in future months, me n da may invite me parents out for meals at Sakura Thai, Swensons or even Samar Cafe? hehehe we'll see ;)
with all dis big hoo haa of my mom's restrictions and conditions to fulfill, Alhamdulillah, things still turned out quite well. Da has been an understanding, tolerant, accommodative n insyaAllah solehah person, it was wonderful to have met such a person whom i can be a friend with, wat more to be my future wife. me n Da agreed to my mom's request to have the wedding insyaAllah only in June 2006. she also agreed to my mom's specific requests dat she's mentioned in the short phone conversation. i deeply appreciate the kind understanding dat Da's been expressing, n i really appreciate the understanding and support dat she's been giving me for the recent emotional days i went thru. those days were soo bad, i wouldnt want to be in such situation anymore. Thanks Da Cayang, i promise to alwiz be wif u insyaAllah *muuacks*
im anticipating wif great eagerness for Fri to come. insyaAllah i hope it'll turn to be a pleasant n meaningful one. it'll be the first time for Darling Da to meet up wif my extended paternal families, n wat better way for it to happen other than to be on one of the 2 Hari Rayas :)
Pray for us, ppl... pray dat may Allah bless us in our journey to blissful marriage, n may Allah give us the strength to go thru it n stand strong against the waves of life :)
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