Saturday, June 04, 2005
The Flat Saga Part 1
The Flat Selection is OFF!
No purchasing of new flat. Not for now... Mom had to sob uncontrollably in front of me early one Fri morning, accusing me of being a disrespectful son for making final decision to marry in Dec without acknowledging her desire to have it next yr, and me not knowing to control my desire in wanting to get married early. Her threat of "if u still want it your way, go ahead lah, but if u come back n find me not around, just too bad ah" was enough to make me n Da decide to abandon our plan altogether. Wat did she mean by dat? Did she mean she'd leave the house? or would she suffer from a heart attack and pass away? Ya I sound very very crude n disrespectful, but dat is wat she wanted me to intepret. Mom doesn't understand dat Da's family couldn't afford to have 2 wedding receptions. For those non-Muslims, dis means having a small reception for the marriage solemnisation ceremony in Dec 2005, and another larger wedding reception where guests are invited for the feast sometime in May 2006. Though the first reception can be small, but her family members are very extensive, hence it may be small for some but definitely a large one for her, and having 2 receptions would not be cost-effective for her. I couldn't agree less wif dat!
While driving to send my dad to work, I could see the sad look on my dad's face, n the tone of his voice explained everything. I could see he's tried his best. I also made the decision wif my dad, dat I wouldn't be making the flat selection come next tues. I told him dat me n Da had nothing to lose if we miss dis selection. The people who would lose out would be my mom n dad coz I don't forsee us getting another chance of having a flat unit so close to them. For me, wat's the point of selecting if we can't get married when we need to show HDB the marriage cert when the time comes? Dad understood my decision. He also suggested me not to stay wif them after marriage. He understood the pressure Da would have to go thru if we do stay. N I've told him I've decided to apply for another flat somewhere we can better afford, and set up a family further away from them. Probably Sengkang, Punggol, I don't mind anymore. Distance is not a factor for me coz Alhamdulillah I have my own transport, I just need to leave home earlier to work. Now we have a lot more time for our flat selection and more chance of saving up more money for the house.
When I told Da later dat morning. it was hard for her to swallow, it was so very difficult for me to tell her, but I had to, after all, we've promised to share everything, our problems, our concerns, even if it would affect anyone of us badly. Alhamdulillah, Da was able to take it with much patience, insyaAllah. Alhamdulillah Da's mom was also understanding.
Things have to start changing for me... I'll try my best to work towards marriage in middle of next yr..
END OF PART 1
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